Domestic Violence-A Mountain to Climb

“The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me,
“Because the Lord has anointed Me
To preach good tidings to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are bound;
2 To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord,
And the day of vengeance of our God;
To comfort all who mourn,
3 To console those who mourn in Zion,
To give them beauty for ashes,
The oil of joy for mourning,
The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;
That they may be called trees of righteousness,
The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified.”

Isaiah 61:1-3

As I have been praying about “Climbing the Mountains” and the direction that God wants domestic violence awarenessme to go in at the beginning of this new year, I have been feeling very strongly the need to address a very serious problem.  That problem is domestic violence.  I will be talking about different aspects of it over the next several posts.  In all of my exploring on the web and on various blogs, I don’t think that I have run across one Christian women’s blog that attempts to address the problem of domestic violence.

Domestic violence is a very serious problem in the world and no matter how much new technology and awareness of many issues is being held in the light.  Domestic violence still exists and does not really seem to be diminishing.

Even in this past year, I have read and heard some very alarming things that sadden me.  You may be thinking, such as?  Well, for one, there is a series of fictional books that have been on the New York Times bestseller list this year “Fifty Shades of Grey…” trilogy.  This series is all about a man dominating a woman in a pornographic style.  No, I have not read the books or any part of them, but I have been unable to avoid the fact that they exist and that  America is mesmerized by them.  One day I was flipping through the newspaper and saw a very descriptive review of them in a local newspaper.  Another day I was sitting in a doctor’s office full of women waiting for an annual exam and on TV was a popular talk show and the host was interviewing husbands and wives who were more than “interested in these books”.   Need I say more?

Another alarming  thing that I read about this year was that Harvard University allowed a club to be formed in which the members promoted violence against women in a very perverted way.  Need I say more?

And then finally, most recently, the young woman in New Delhi, India who was gang raped on a bus and within a few days died.  Now, humanitarian groups and women are protesting this particular incident and rightly so, but I ask you, how many incidents such as this happen and get ignored?  How many are never reported?

Don’t get me wrong, I am glad that the New Delhi incident is being recognized, a few steps forward in the progress being made in the area of crimes against women, but it seems that it is a terribly unbalanced world that we live in when the first 2 incidents that I mentioned are going on and being touted as good, free speech, free expression of personal beliefs, etc.; these 2 things represent many steps being taken backward in the area of the rights of women being protected.

And we wonder why there is so much violence still being directed against women.

Folks, those of us who are Christians, need to get down and do some very serious praying about this issue.

I just want to share something.

domestic violence 1*Here are some statistics that may be of interest to you:

  • One in four women will be physically abused by a partner in her lifetime (A)
  • More than one in three Americans have witnessed an incident of domestic violence. (B)
  • Domestic violence is the leading cause of serious injury to American women, more common than muggings and car crashes combined. (C)
  • A woman is battered every 15 seconds in the United States (D)
  • It is estimated that between 2.3 and 10 million children are exposed to intimate partner violence. (F)
  • Each year in the United States 42% of murdered women are killed by their male partners. (G)
  • Only approximately one-quarter of all physical assaults, one-fifth of all rapes, and one-half of all stalkings perpetuated against females by intimate partners are reported to the police. (H)
  • One in five high school girls reports being physically or sexually assaulted by a date. (J)
  • One of every three women in the world has experienced abuse at the hands of a partner. (K)
  • 90-95% of victims of domestic violence are women (D)
  • A woman is MORE likely to be seriously injured or killed AFTER she leaves the relationship. (L)

A. Tjaden, Patricia & Thoennes, Nancy. National Institute of Justice and the Centers of Disease Control and
A – Prevention, “Extent, Nature and Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence: Findings from the National Violence
Against Women Survey,” 2000
B – Family Violence Prevention Fund, “Men Beating Women: Ending Domestic Violence, A Qualitative & Quantitative
Study of Public Attitudes on Violence against Women,” New York:1993
C – Stark and Flitcraft, 1985
D – FBI, NIJ:2000
E – UN Study On The Status of Women, Year 2000
F – Carlson, B. E. (1984). Children’s observations of interparental violence. In A. R. Roberts (Ed.) Battered women
and their families (pp. 147-167).
G – FBI’s 88-91 Uniform Crime Reports
H – National Institute of Justice and the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention, “Extent, Nature and
Consequences of Intimate Partner Violence: Findings from the National Violence Against Women Survey,” 2000.
J – Davis, T.C, Peck G. Q., Storment, J. M. (1993). Journal of Adolescent Health, 14, 220-224.
K – UN Commission on the Status of Women, 2/28/00
L – CWLC’s Murder at Home Project, 1998-2002

*What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Battering happens when one person believes he or she is entitled to control another. Assault, battering and domestic violence are crimes.

Battering escalates. It often begins with behaviors like threats, name-calling, violence in the presence of the other (such as punching a fist through a wall), and/or damage to objects or pets. It may escalate to restraining, pushing, slapping, and/or pinching. The battering may include punching, kicking, biting, sexual assault, tripping, throwing. Finally, it may become life threatening with serious behaviors such as choking, breaking bones, or the use of weapons.


How is the church addressing these issues?

How can I as just one individual address these issues?

How do I help someone whom I know is being abused?

What do I do if I am the one being abused and I have questions?

What do I do if I am in a life threatening situation?

These are the issues that I will be covering over the next several posts.


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Blessings to you today and let this culminate with you.  This is a message that needs to get out because there are people in ALL walks of life who need help in this area.  This is not a pretty issue but a necessary one that needs to brought out and examined under the light.

Love to you,



About Rhonda

Let me introduce myself to you who may not know who I am...I am an artist, writer, blogger, born again follower of Jesus Christ (I pursue Him on an ongoing basis with passion), I am a recovering codependent, survivor of childhood and adulthood domestic violence, an empty nester who still has a LOT of life to live and a LOT more places to go before I stop, the wife to Mr. John, mother, grandmother and I have a passion for being a part of the process of getting preschoolers ready for the rest of their lives! I have probably left something out but that's ok.
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4 Responses to Domestic Violence-A Mountain to Climb

  1. There are other forms of abuse such as verbal and then there is silence. Physical abuse was what my mother-in law suffored. Thank you for sharing this topic that needs prayer to stop. Education does not seem to help as you have pointed out by the books written, TV shows and professors who tout violence makes it worse. Only prayer that God will step in will help. Thank you for sharing at Tell me a Story.

    • EvieJo says:

      I’m so sorry to read that your mother-in-law suffered from abuse. My prayer for her is that she will spend eternity with the Lord who will heal all of those of wounds and wipe away every tear. Yes, I agree, Prayer is the only thing that can change these things. I believe that everyone of us knows someone who specifically needs prayer, either because they are a victim or because we suspect that they may be an abuser. Bless you, Mrs. Hazel!

  2. I didn’t read everything you shared. BUT, I most certainly understand. I’ve shared some of my history on my blog and certainly with people who know me. I was raised in a very abusive home and wasn’t very non-abusive either, b/c the only way I could make it was to fight back. During my first marriage it wasn’t physical abuse, but it was verbal and emotional. [His goal for a couple of years was to drive me crazy enough that I would commit suicide and people at church would feel sorry for him that his wife had done this and left him with the 2 kids.] God got me out of that situation. Anyhow, in the past 28 years I’ve NOT been abused. YES, I’m a fighter, still. BUT spiritually, not physically. We live in a hard and harsh world. OH, but both my parents came to the Lord before they died. That is a gooooood thing!!! Look forward to seeing them in Heaven with all the background garbage in the dumpster.

    • EvieJo says:

      Amen to your comment about your parents! Praise God that they came to know Him will be spending eternity with you, Joanne. Thanks so much for your comment and interest in this subject, I can tell it is very near to your heart as it is to mine. So glad that your last 28 years have been non-abusive. Bless you, EvieJo

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