…and yet they walk hand in hand.
Without trust there would never be a betrayal.
One of the saddest things about betrayal is that it never comes from our enemies. Betrayal comes from those who we trust…our loved ones, lovers, families, closest friends.
When I place my trust in someone, I place my trust in the belief that they are reliable, good and honest in their dealings with me. I give them the same thing in being reliable, good and honest in my dealings with them.
It is not very likely that we will be betrayed by someone whom we do not trust because we will be careful in our dealings and conversations with them.
On the other hand, when I do choose to trust people, the likelihood that I will be betrayed at some time in my life is greatly increased.
When a husband or wife is betrayed with lies, the spouse receives that betrayal as if it were him/her who was betrayed.
Have you ever betrayed someone?
When one is betrayed or if one betrays, the fallout from the action causes devastation among all parties involved.
If one is betrayed it is because they once trusted. They never thought that the betrayer would expose them to humiliation like they have done whether it be a lie that the betrayer told or the revealing of a secret truth that was whispered in confidence.
If one betrays could it be because they have no moral standards? Maybe they don’t value relationships. Maybe they don’t consider being trustworthy important. Maybe they intentionally want to hurt the one whom they betray or they place no value on their relationship with the betrayed.
Whatever the reason or whoever you are, whatever side that you may fall on…betrayal also injures. It injures both individuals. Sometimes it injures entire families because many people’s lives are changed. Betrayals can cause long-standing, maybe lifetime feuds.
A betrayal, especially if it is a lie, can ruin the reputation of someone in an entire community and then it is called libel or slander.
Betrayal leaves an aftermath of hurt and devastation that has to be repaired.
Once a betrayal takes place, it is guaranteed that things in the relationship(s) will never be the same.
There can be steps taken to repair the relationships, though.
The injured party has to forgive the person who injured them, not so much for the sake of the betrayer but for himself. It is the only way to insure that he/she will not become bitter. It is the only way that he/she will be able to get on with his/her life.
Sometimes the betrayer will have second thoughts and try to justify why they did what they did or try to wheedle their way back into the life of the person they betrayed.
Other times the betrayer will decide that the relationship is over and they will never try to right what has been wronged.
Here are two New Testament examples:
When Jesus was arrested by the authorities to be crucified he was betrayed by one of His handpicked apostles, Judas, for a mere 30 pieces of silver. The same night that He was arrested, he was betrayed by another one of his handpicked disciples, Peter, who denied that he even knew Jesus, not once but three times.
Both of these occurrences were very serious betrayals, afterwards each betrayer handled his actions differently. Judas tried to return the 30 pieces of silver after he really realized what he had done and then just gave up with self-condemnation and committed suicide by hanging himself in “The field of blood”. It was over for him, nothing was ever resolved.
On the other hand, Peter, who denied Jesus three times after He was arrested, did not give up, he wept, he followed Jesus to the end and when Jesus was resurrected and had overcome death, they talked about it, Peter worked through it, Jesus had forgiven him. Peter went on to become a mighty man of God, a Jesus follower to be trusted with many more things by God.
Those of us who have betrayed, we must try to make things right face to face with the person who we have betrayed. We cannot stick our heads in the sand. It has to be worked through.
It is the duty of the betrayer to take the initiative to right the relationship.
Jesus gave us very explicit instructions on how to handle ourselves if we have “ought against our brother”. We are to go straight to our brother, not to everyone else except our brother. Talk it through before we make up our minds and condemn.
If you have betrayed someone, more than likely the betrayed one already knows all that you did and said against them. If they are a Jesus follower, they are waiting for you to come and make it right in a peaceful manner.
There are many true stories of betrayal in the Bible. Some with good outcomes and others with very bad endings.
Betrayal is a horrible, hurtful occurrence no matter which side we are on. Don’t let your outcome be a bad one. Let your story be one of victory.
Love and blessings,